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Are You A Good Help Meet For Your Husband?



More often than not, God shows me things in the garden.

Sure, watching a plant and then a vegetable emerge from a tiny seed is amazing, but I'm looking beyond that. I'm talking about the pictures that God paints for me in His creation that I stand in awe of. He shows me pictures of life, death, stewardship, faith...even marriage.

You read that right.

I said Marriage.

God has shown me beautiful pictures of marriage in the garden.

Is it a coincidence that He created the first marriage in a garden? 



Genesis 2:18 "And the Lord God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make an help meet for him."
 
Genesis 2:21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.


Nasturtiums make amazing companion plants; they keep pests away, and draw pollinators. They're also pretty and edible.

Not too long ago, our pastor was preaching a sermon. In it, he used my husband and I as an example and he referred to me as my husband's "companion".

Well, y'all know me. That word sparked a train of thoughts that brought me to Companion Planting. Very quickly, I began to draw comparisons between how a Good Marriage is comparable to a good Companion Planting.

How Do They Compare?

For us gardeners, we understand that companion planting is simply a technique of planting different species of plants together for a specific outcome.

Example: Plant A will enrich the soil with nitrogen for Plant B, while Plant B deters pests that are usually drawn to Plant A.

In comparison, I have found that some of the most steadfast marriages have been comprised of two people that balance each other well. One maybe an animated, optimistic extrovert (like me) and the other maybe a more stoic, "realistic" (his words), introvert (like my hubby).

On paper, this match might not make sense, but as companions, it makes perfect sense.

I need my husband to help keep me focused as I tend to jump from one thing to another, and he needs me to have some fun every now. Those that know us are probably chuckling and nodding their heads in agreement.

A Suitable Companion



I love that in verse 18, Eve is referred to as "a help MEET for him". "Meet" in this sense, means "suitable". She was a help suitable for Adam--much like the relationship between companion plants.


Are you a suitable help for your spouse? Are you a good companion? 

I'll be honest, I've have been struh-guh-ling. This week has been rough. I have been stressed and husband has been stressed. When he expresses his worries or concerns, my initial response is NOT "How can I help? How can I ease the burden?" My initial response this week has been quite the opposite.

We learn this of the Proverbs 31 woman:
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.


I challenge you to consider these things: 

Can your husband trust that when he isn't looking, you are taking care of business instead spending hours on social media? Can your husband trust that you aren't spending all of the rent money on needless things? Can he trust that you are doing all you can for your marriage and your family? Can he trust that you are being a help suitable for him?
 

Are You A Good Help Meet For Him?


I shared with you all that I have been listening to the audio book "The Proverbs 31 Homemaker" by Jami Balmet. Let me tell ya-- full on conviction. I needed an attitude adjustment and boy did I get it.

The Lord is good about sending those at the right time, isn't he?

I can't control my husband's worries or his concerns; he needs to take those to the Lord;  but I can certainly help. Whether it's correcting a behavior or simply praying for him, I can help.


Instead of taking what he says personally, I can try my best to recognize the problem for what it is and do what I can to ease the burden.

I actually owe my husband an apology. It isn't going to be fun--I hate admitting when I'm wrong. But that's the beginning of reconciliation, right?

I want to be a good companion. I want to keep away the things that annoy and concern my husband. I want to provide that nourishing sanctuary for him to grow, heal, and be rejuvenated. I really desire to be that help MEET for him, but I'm going to need the Lord. I'm going to need the Master Gardener's help.

I share more thoughts on this subject in this video I did as part of the Homestead Homemaking series started by my good friend, Amy Fewell, from The Fewell Homestead. I hope you find thoughts there that speak to your heart.






I have found that some of the most steadfast marriages have been comprised of two people that balance each other well. One maybe an animated, optimistic extrovert (like me) and the other maybe a more stoic, "realistic" (his words), introvert (like my hubby).   On paper, this match might not make sense, but as companions, it makes perfect sense.   I need my husband to help keep me focused as I tend to jump from one thing to another, and he needs me to have some fun every now.
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